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I hope that you can get the help you need soon mate and get on a better path.
I wish you all the best.
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Originally Posted by lord bunberry
I hope that you can get the help you need soon mate and get on a better path.
I wish you all the best.
Your contributions have been missed mate.Quote:
Originally Posted by lord bunberry
I really hope you can find a way of turning things around. I find the post game analysis when we lose really tiresome on here, especially at the moment when there is no space given to anything positive. That can infect other areas of my life. I’ve decided to distance myself from football at the moment as it puts a dampener on my weekends when we don’t do well.
All the best.
Stick in mate, hope to see you posting again soon - you're a good poster on the forums and your contribution is missed. :aok:Quote:
Originally Posted by lord bunberry
Horrible to hear that, I can only echo the above comments. Take care and keep talking, to anyone including us all, you're not alone.Quote:
Originally Posted by lord bunberry
Not sure what I've done to deserve that but, cheers! 😉Quote:
Originally Posted by lord bunberry
I don't blame you for taking yourself away from negativity, LB, I think it's a really good idea. Who wants to live in that world any more than they need to. I wasn't struggling personally but I decided to take a similar tack and feel better for it. An example of that is Facebook where I these days have a hair trigger for blocking people that I don't want to listen to and certainly don't want impinging on my equilibrium.Quote:
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Really sorry to hear things have been difficult for you of late. I wonder if you can cast your mind back to what helped you in the past and anything that has led to this point more recently?
Take care mate.
Agree with this. I haven't taken myself away from football but tend to concentrate on the football itself and much less about the social media etc, that surrounds it. It's just very wearing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jones28
I find that my ability to cope with aggro on here, on other social media and anywhere else depends on my frame of mind.
Sometimes, when feeling well, it is fun getting stuck in. You argue your corner, other folk argue theirs, you see some stuff that on another day would bother you but you are in a position to be able to deal with it and brush it off. Sometimes you will chuck a cheeky, barbed or slightly vicious comment out there without really thinking about who might be on the receiving end of it.
There are other times when that seems impossible. Little things really niggle. In the grander scheme of things (for example) an online skirmish about the ability of Christian Doidge to play association football isn't really that big a deal, but it is amazing how other posters can get to you when you are anything from just not yourself to seriously mentally unwell. The same goes for online discussions of Brexit, folk parading their achievements on facebook, to somebody opening a packet of crisps noisily in the pub.
My partner helps me with it, as she can spot changes in my mood and will tell me when it is time to take a break - this can be from social media, spending time on certain sites, spending too long at work to spending any time with certain people.
It is important also though, to point out that sometimes social media can help. It's not all negative. This site has banter, friendliness, honest debate, people helping each other get to games, folk sharing fond memories and reminiscing about times we've enjoyed together, even if we don't have the first idea who each other are.
I'm not a professional so I reckon it would be dangerous for me to post any sort of advice LB. The only thing I would say is that yours is a username I recognise, you are a poster who has made a formidable positive contribution to this thread and this site. I wish you nothing but the best of luck in getting better, however that happens.
LB we've spoken before the last time you were struggling, you strike me as an insightful, intelligent person and you will know the best course of action to get yourself out of this temporary (yes, it IS just temporary) bad patch.Quote:
Originally Posted by lord bunberry
The main thing is get yourself to the GP and tell him/her everything. And remember the mantra about being kind to yourself at all times. If you need to spend all day in bed, that's absolutely fine. Life's not a competition. Be easy on yourself :aok:
I've had a dip in mood recently, I'm going to the docs first thing tomorrow morning to get reacquainted with a mindfulness course, because I know it helps with stress and anxiety and that racing, overactive mind thing that comes with just having too much going on. Talking about it helps me a lot.
Oh and aye, absolutely taking a break from social media is a great idea. There's certain forums I just stay away from now because I recognise that it's just not a productive or healthy way to spend my time. Especially if you're feeling low.
The whole social media world really is a tale of contradictions. It can undoubtedly be a very negative place that brings out the worst in people but it's also full of good people doing good things.
For all the negativity on here there are also threads like this one or other threads with people helping each other out with everything from finding a plumber to becoming a vegetarian. I find the same across the spectrum. For all the ugliness that the likes of Brexit have caused I also see dozens of people coming together to get a lost cat home or people who run and win 100 mile races being genuinely delighted for and encouraging to people who have walked their first 5K.
I go through phases in which I am consumed by the ugliness of it as well and it doesn't do any harm to step back from it from time to time. It's always worth remembering in a lot of instances it's not real life and things aren't always what they seem.
As said above LB please speak to your GP and make them aware of your current thoughts. And remember that whilst it's perfectly understandable if you want to take a break from here, there are many on this thread who appreciate you as a poster and want to 'listen' to you and help however they can.
Thank you all so much for your kind words and advice. I have an appointment with the doctor booked and I’m going to the gym tomorrow as that’s helped my mood in the past. Just reading this thread is a huge help, this site in general is really good and my criticism of it last night was probably a bit unfair. I just need to take a break from things and get myself sorted out. Thanks again it’s very much appreciated.
Good to hear. Hope your appointment helps and the gym session makes a difference.Quote:
Originally Posted by lord bunberry
Disclosure - The Lost Boys is worth a watch, not easy viewing though. Will be on iPlayer.
We all wish you the very best, mate :aok:Quote:
Originally Posted by lord bunberry
How have the last couple of days been mate?Quote:
Originally Posted by lord bunberry
Up and down mate. It’s amazing how quickly things can turn. I struggle to cope with the lows and don’t understand the highs. I’ve felt great today, I went out to work, had a good bit of banter with my punters and made a few quid. I’ve just got home and it’s nice to sit downstairs in peace and quiet. I might have a beer.Quote:
Originally Posted by HUTCHYHIBBY
Keep your chin up, you know where we are. 😉Quote:
Originally Posted by lord bunberry
We put out a third episode in our Changing Room series last night, I thought it was really powerful, and a really reassuring message from our guest, John.
You can catch it here:
iTunes
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcas...s/id1474463560
Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0MC...QgCatuxtJHfpSQ
Web/Anchor
https://anchor.fm/longbangers/episod...-Room-3-e86ooe
If anyone wants to come on and talk about things, drop me a PM or send an email to [email protected]
Has anyone on here ever sought out therapy/management techniques for anger?
I've suffered from depression, anxiety for about 10 years now (never resorted to medication) and about 2 years ago was diagnosed with PTSD after a pretty horrific child-birth experience with my partner (thankfully all was OK, but the legacy of that event lingers). I've been managing these pretty well and would describe myself as highly functioning. My depressive episodes are moderate, and I don't experience the crushing lows and feelings of hopelessness that people describe.
Lately, I've been finding it increasingly challenging to curb my anger/temper. I'm not violent with it, but this morning, found myself almost getting out my car to beat the **** out of a driver who cut me up with an erratic maneouver and then stopped in front of me just looking at me in his rear view mirror. It was a disproportionate response from me, and one quite out of character. Unlike the low episodes and anxious episodes, which I manage OK, I'm worried that my anger levels are perhaps getting to a point where I could be doing with seeing someone.
My GP is a bit of a tire-fire just now, so sadly they're not really an option.
Not sure if it's been mentioned yet but I'd recommended giving Limmy's autobiograhy a read.
He's suffered from a lot of mental health issues and covers it in his book with a bit of humour thrown in, its a good read.
The audio version is on youtube.
We recorded another mental health podcast last night, which is available to listen to now:
Anchor:
https://anchor.fm/longbangers/episod...-Room-5-e8snkg
iTunes:
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcas...f-166af5d6f134
Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5DW...QmitOVS1YWtl3w
We're looking for guests for the show, so if you're interested in helping others by sharing your experiences, pm me, DM @longbangers on Twitter, or email [email protected]
We recorded the latest mental health episode with the fascinating George Lewis (you can see more about George here: https://www.mumforce.co.uk/post/my-h...urney-week-5-6 and here: https://georgelewishypnotherapy.co.uk/
Episode is available on:
iTunes
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcas...s/id1474463560
Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3jz...TL68J9RY1DS6Cg
Anchor
https://anchor.fm/longbangers/episod...-Room-6-e90jr5
I’m just wondering if anyone has experience with Seasonal Affective Disorder?
Without over egging things I’ve been feeling noticeably less enthused about things and no motivation to get up and go other than for work.
I wouldn’t go as far to say the was any depressive/sadness/worthlessness feelings, just a lowness that confuses me.
Any advice or help would be great.
Are you sure it's linked to the time of year and not something else which happens to coincides with it? Do you get this feeling every winter? It isn't something I know anything about, but isn't it the case that suicide rates increase in the Scandinavian countries during their long winters?Quote:
Originally Posted by Jones28
It something I’ve noticed for the past 3/4 years. The only coincidence is the time of year. The last few years it’s been fleeting and not as potent as the feelings this year where I’ve had consistent low mood.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hibernia&Alba
I work in agriculture and spend extensive amounts of time outside at all times of year, I just wonder if this is heightening the issues. I was at uni for the last three years so would spend more amounts of time inside but after graduating in July l’ve been farming full time and this involves spending upwards of ten hours outside in the summer.
We had our first baby this year too, I worry that maybe this is a culmination of tiredness as well. I also haven’t had a chance to recharge the batteries after a busy harvest period either which maybe hasn’t helped.
Thanks for the reply anyway, I thought your contribution to the general election thread was absolutely excellent.
Have you researched it further online? If it's having a significant impact, you need to seek further assistance. Have you seen your GP?Quote:
Originally Posted by Jones28
Yes I’ve looked into it, it’s nothing I don’t think can sort myself. I’d rather try the techniques and changes to lifestyle I’ve read about than go straight to the GP, for starters the waiting list is so long by the time I get an appointment the days will be getting longer again 😂Quote:
Originally Posted by Hibernia&Alba
A couple of weeks in the Canary Islands at this time of year would probably work wonders, if you can afford it!Quote:
Originally Posted by Jones28
I hope everyone is as well as they can be!
The next drop in for The Changing Room is tonight. If you can make it then meet for 6pm at the West Stand entrance. It’s free, you’ll have the chance to talk in a safe environment about your mental health, you get a cuppa and a biscuit and there’s a football quiz tonight!
That’s would be smashing.Quote:
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Even if you can't afford that arrange a day out to somewhere. I remember when I was coming out of a rut, how invigorating a bus trip to Glasgow was.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hibernia&Alba
A break from the routine gives you a chance to step back and take stock.
https://www.theguardian.com/sport/20...ks-anxiety-nfl
This is an interesting story and evidence that even in the most 'man-up' of environments that its OK to be open about mental health:aok:
My work is generaly a very similar routine every day. Same office, same issues, same people, same challenges. It's a business that struggles to keep its head above water from month to month - almost every month - and has done for years now. I carry the stress and anxiety of that around with me every day. I'm never 'off'.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hibernia&Alba
There are a number of things that can help me - eat, sleep, move is more or less my mantra to stay sane - but even just doing something different in a day takes me out of myself and gives me some perspective. Something as simple as a different walk at lunchtime or trying to work in a different place from time to time. It's a bit trite but I suppose I'm saying that a change really is as good as a break.
That sounds like a pretty awful situation ODS, is there scope for you to move on to somewhere in the same field but with more security?Quote:
Originally Posted by One Day Soon
I’m fortunate in a way in that my work is just ****ing boring, monotonous and underpaid. It’s real slog at this time of year.
Yepp that’s a great way to do things.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cataplana
A good hike clears the head something wonderful. Dollar Glen is just about as lovely a spot to hike up, or Alva Glen, if you want a hike not far from Edinburgh.
Dollar Glen is great. I always visit the deli first, they do great baguettes.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jones28
I’ll bear that in mind. Have you been into the castle or just up to it? I’m trying to weigh up if it’s worth the entrance fee!Quote:
Originally Posted by Cataplana
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It is I'm afraid.
If I move the business folds and people lose their jobs. We've lost a lot of staff since the 2008 collapse but not one of those 20 or so people was made redundant, we managed to slim down over a period of years through natural wasteage. I take pride in that but it's come at a personal cost - both financial and psychological. So most days are trying to avoid being eaten by the bears, which I guess at least gives you a very real sense of being alive. We are in the process of trying to change what the business does at the moment and there's some prospect that could make life different in the next 12 months. I hope so because I want to be able to give more time and head space to my wife and kids in the next few years - I'm old enough now to realise that most things beyond friends and family are just diversionary bread and circuses so spending lots of time dragging around interlinked business and personal debt behind you like a ball and chain is a poor way to spend your fifties.
November is always bad. I regard November and February as the same months dressed up differently - cold, grey, wet dull. But December and March make up for it, you just have to push on through.
I hope so mate, you sound like a stand up colleague. You’ve every right to take pride in that record, but it sounds like a fairly hellish way to live day-to-day.Quote:
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I like your way of looking at the months too. I already feel a lot lighter knowing that November is nearly finished.
I’m sure it won’t make it feel any better but apart from “fifties” I can relate to every single word of your post.Quote:
Originally Posted by One Day Soon
This thread is a great one and one that I have considered contributing to but the time has never been right.
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:aok: It actually does. Solidarity Brother.
We continue our mental health discussion on the Longbangers podcast, joined tonight by Graham, who shared his experiences of anxiety and depression.
Anchor/web
https://anchor.fm/longbangers/episod...-Room-7-e98bce
iTunes
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcas...s/id1474463560
Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/02c...TBiLZQ_OT4mNJg
Interesting. I’m not saying this was the case with Michael Stewart, but I had my suspicions something like that might have had something to do with the episodes of vomiting on the pitch that Michael Stewart had when he was with us.Quote:
Originally Posted by hibsbollah
If you consider how many actors, comedians etc have gone public about their performance anxiety (what we used to call stage fright) it would be weird if it wasn't a common thing among professional athletes as well. I bet it's massively underreported.Quote:
Originally Posted by overdrive
When you then take into consideration the scrutiny of performance and what is financially at stake in some of these games then I'm amazed it doesn't happen more.
The lack of empathy bordering on resentment due to often colossal earnings can't help either.
At the end of the day we're all human, with all the frailties and weaknesses that go with that, which is worth thinking about prior to launching a volley of abuse at a match or sending a tweet that might just about be legal but is hurtful in the extreme to a sportsperson who has just had a bad day at the office.
I've been thinking for a while about this subject too. Wrote a little about it:Quote:
Originally Posted by Smartie
'On a wider note, I have a growing feeling that professional footballers, perhaps due to considerations of their their ‘wealth’ (or assumed wealth) are being somewhat sacrificed for the needs of the game. In Peter and Jeff’s day footballers were perhaps considered differently with much more modest rewards available from the game. In the modern era, it seems to me that players are increasingly vulnerable to addictions such as those of gambling, alcohol and recreational drugs. Stories of depression, anxiety and even suicidality in players due to pressures of the industry and attendant lifestyle are becoming more common and are almost certainly under-diagnosed and reported due to stigma and ignorance. It’s almost as though the players cannot complain about the issues or problems they are experiencing in the public’s view due to arguably, a minority being paid fortunes to play the game many would love to.
I do feel the football industry and individual clubs need to focus more on the health and well-being of football players – no matter how much or little they earn. Money is not a protective factor for health or mental health in these circumstances. Tales of excess and ruined lives litter the professional game and those stories are certainly not relegated to the modern era solely. Players it appears are increasingly more indulged and overprotected in everyday matters of running heir lives and careers. Their personal health and well-being however seems to be a lesser consideration. In some ways, attitudes in the game have not evolved significantly from past days with certain subjects still being subject to stigmatisation.'
Just watched a fairly badly edited report on BBC on a Cowdenbeath player coming out as suffering from depression. Club are supporting in a good way saying if associated abuse from opposition players or fans continue then they will walk off the pitch during matches. Fair play Blue Brazil
I am sure I read an article/interview about him, David Cox and his battles with mental health. During the worst times he contemplated taking his own life.Quote:
Originally Posted by JoeT
The abuse he has received from the opposition players is utterly disgusting and if Cowdenbeath believe the abuse is that bad I would back their decision to walk off the pitch.
Other clubs need to be wary of this and need to step up and punish their own players.
Easy target for the bully boys trying to get one over on the opposition however this could have dire consequences. Lowest of the low imho!
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With stories like that it’s no wonder so many men hide their feelings and don’t talk. It’s even more despicable that this was done by opposing players. I really hope they get outed and never kick a ball again.Quote:
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Indeed.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jones28
It takes a lot of courage for anyone to talk about these sort of issues but to be let Fuentes by your fellow professionals is disgusting.
Those involved should be ashamed of their actions and like you e mentioned I hope they get named and shamed.
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Quite a few people say to me that they have struggles in disclosing their problems and the culture highlighted in previous posts here highlights why. The various slogans and campaigns such as 'It's OK no to be OK' are very well-meaning and in the correct spirit but still at this time they ring a bit hollow. People repeat these things, post them on social media etc. but many do not walk the walk in reality.
My boss attended an understanding depression and anxiety course (same day as me strangely) since then he now accepts messages rather than a phone call and has displayed such understanding. He was ever nasty but expected calls in procedures to be used for sickness. When I was last off with it and sciatica he asked me for a shopping list and brought them to my house as I was struggling to get out. Meant so much. His non judgemental approach is a massive helpQuote:
Originally Posted by stu in nottingham
Really good to hear. Interesting about the course.Quote:
Originally Posted by wpj
That should have read never nasty not "ever nasty"Quote:
Originally Posted by stu in nottingham
Stu, the course is for NHS managers and provided by external trainers. Where I work stress, anxiety and depression is the largest cause of absenteeism however there is a real lack of understanding. Unfortunately the course isnt mandatory for managers, at least not yet.
That's interesting, do you work in a Scottish NHS board?Quote:
Originally Posted by wpj
No I'm in England in an acute setting, our trust have an internal database where you can get all the information on just about anything, anonymised of course. Be interested to see the national status for the whole UKQuote:
Originally Posted by Cataplana
I was wondering if similar courses were in operation up here.Quote:
Originally Posted by wpj
Im not sure if I can post here so feel free to delete admins if it breaks any rules. Each night this week I'm hosting a 15minute guided meditation session starting at 9pm. No charge just join the group if you fancy joining in (all will be recorded too so if 9pm isnt any good for you you can join in in your own time). No experience required, they are meditations you cant get wrong, just kick back and listen to me :greengrinYou can access by clicking here
Wishing you all on this wonderful thread all the very best. Be kind and accepting to yourself over the next few days & realise your never alone...We are family :flag:
Thanks and I echo the sentiment. Can be a tough time of year. Got my daughter until lunchtime tomorrow, having a great time but the place will very empty when she goes. Still going to make an effort with food etc, movies and boxsets at the ready. Football all day on boxing dayQuote:
Originally Posted by Dalianwanda
I said this recently on Twitter but I thought I’d mention it on here since it’s a really positive thread.
Pretty much exactly a year ago I took my daughter to school with tears in my eyes as I thought I was going to end things that day. Last week I took her to school with a smile on my face.
I’m in a far better place mentally than I was. It’s down to various factors but one of them has been the supportive I've received from family, friends and strangers in social media. Yet they would never have helped me if I hadn’t spoken about it.
I don’t know the answers but I do know you can help fight mental health issues by talking about your problems and feelings. If I didn’t I don’t know where I’d be right now. But there’s a chance I wouldn’t be taking my daughter to school.
If anyone wants a chat, just DM me. In the meantime, we’ve got this
Great post mate, glad to see you doing well now. :aok:Quote:
Originally Posted by LustForLeith
Really heartwarming to see turnarounds like this. Delighted to hear your in a good space 🙏Quote:
Originally Posted by LustForLeith
Really good post and glad to hear that you are doing so much better. The strangers on social media is an interesting one and something that has been positive for me. You may have heard of him already but check out Aaron Connelly on Twitter. He plays for Fauldhouse Utd in the juniors and his story over the last 12 months has been dramatic but hugely positive. He and his wife have set up Time to Tackle, a football based group to help mental health sufferers through having a kickabout and the opportunity to talk. Well worth a read IMHOQuote:
Originally Posted by LustForLeith
Fantastic heart warming post well done you.Quote:
Originally Posted by LustForLeith
This is a terrible time of year with the dark days and nights so to be feeling great is wonderful.
The nights are starting to stretch and I have to say mood is getting better with it hurry up the light nights [emoji16]
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Just wanted to join with others in wishing you well, mate. Fantastic to hear and I'm so pleased for you and your family. Well done and keep it going.Quote:
Originally Posted by LustForLeith
I'd like to second this! I play with a weekly group of lads that Aaron helped get off the ground under the banner of "Kick Mental Health" (we're actually playing a charity 11-aside game against TtT in a couple of weeks) - we're based in Lanark and Livingston, and it's a weekly 7-aside game played in the right spirits. Aaron's story is quite incredible, and the idea of having a safe space to run around and get some exercise, and also Changing Room Chat afterwards is a fabulous endeavour.Quote:
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Hi folks,
Thanks for the messages of support. It’s weird, I’ve gone from being overwhelmed by depression and it talking about it to talking about depression and being overwhelmed by the support from people! I’m never happy!
Aaron Connolly is doing great work in the field of increasing mental health awareness and he deserves all the credit he gets.
I also volunteer at the changing Room and it’s amazing the amount of people you meet and become friends with through that. Maybe before one match there’s a meeting point for anyone who is feeling a bit low or who goes to games by themselves?
Thanks again. Tots emosh as the kids probably don’t say!
I’ve tried to to write out a post and deleted it every time as I just can’t sum up how I feel. Things couldn’t be much worse, I’m not earning enough money to keep my head above water due to my depression. The financial problems make my mental health worse, but I still have a duty to my family. I will be absolutely honest and say that if it wasn’t for my beautiful precious little girl, I wouldn’t be here now. She is the only thing that keeps me going and I will never let her down. Failure is hard when it comes to children.
I don't really know what to say to you other than I hear you and am listening to you, and other people on here will be as well. Hopefully expressing how you feel, in the knowledge that others are listening and accepting without judgement, is some help. The more important part is you articulating how you are feeling, which you are doing very eloquently. It is not easy and my thoughts are with you.Quote:
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Thank you. I can’t tell you how much this forum helps at times, even if we all don’t always see eye to eye.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mibbes Aye
Some things are bigger than political views or whatever. It is a brave thing to be as honest as you are posting about your feelings. I hope that if it helps, you continue to do so. It must also make others feel safer about doing likewise, when they see someone else being candid and honest about the challenges they are experiencing. Good job.Quote:
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Thank you again MA personally I enjoy the political discourse on this site. Being a hibs fan means you love everything hibs. When the game game ends that unity ends and we all go back to our natural beliefs.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mibbes Aye
Like lord Bunberry I've tried to write then delete write then delete. January is over the hardest month they say yet every day is a struggle. Over xmas and new year all was well I had no issues got to spend time with my ex and daughter she is only an ex because of my illnesses we are still very close and hopefully we can reconcile anyway all was going well we had separate plans for new year and all were happy. I on the 29th dec decided that my time had come I cleaned my house took some pills went for a bath took more pills and laid on my bed hoping to not wake up I then got a call from my ex who knew something wasnt right my daughter then called me and stayed on the phone untill the police arrived. They turned up saw the note and what I had taken then off to the royal ed for an assessment. Since then I've been seeing a psychologist and had a different outlook I thought I was an inconvenience yet I realised I'm not. So I take every day now as a blessing yeah I have low points but hey I wake up every day and play everything by ear. God knows the last time I went to a game it's a mix of being g up and raring to go then it takes a hold and dont want to out to nah I cba today to then deciding last minute I'm going but I've left it too late. Anyway sorry for the long post I hope all are well
So glad you still here PP...Obviously I don’t know you but really happy that your seeing things differently. Just shows that if you wait around new though will pop up. Take care.Quote:
Originally Posted by pontius pilate
Always pop in to the holy ground to keep tabs on this thread
How we all doing just now?
I had a pretty rough 2019 physically and mentally due to some long term pain and depression/anxiety stretching 8 years or so
After numerous visits to docs and blood tests nothing was coming back. FINALLY given a diagnosis of Fibromyalgia - last week
Coming to terms with that news, but having a "label" and beginning a plan to manage it, I'm more hopeful of a long happy life than i was 6 months or so ago
I've been feeling rough for the last couple of weeks. Taking each day as it comes to get myself better.Quote:
Originally Posted by GreenNWhiteArmy
I've just been signed off work for burn out, they are investigating if its diabetic burnout, as th last few weeks I've been so annoyed/tired with my diabetes, my girlfriend had said numerous times that I've just sat and ignored my blood sugar (which is unlike me) and I've felt myself that I could just ignore every aspect of my illness. I dont think I would do it. Talked with my diabetic team and they are worried that it will end with me doing precisely that just ignore it, they see it as suicide attempt althoughif I wanted to kill myself I'd find a much quicker way of doing it. Life is hard enough without the ****ty illness, 30 years I've had it and even when it's been good I dont feel physically or mentally better. Am actually at the end of my teather.
So sorry to hear you are struggling. Is your GP understanding? I would make an appointment as soon as you are able, reach out to friends and family as well. Keep checking in here and contact any of us if we can offer any support, it's important you know you are not alone. Take care mate.Quote:
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Wim Hoffs guided breathing meditation and cold shower therapy works wonders for anxiety and helps maintain a positive mindset throughout the day.
I'm on a right downer just now, got concerns about every one of my immediate family for differing reasons, my head is scrambled and my emotions are just about managing to cope. I'm under the impression nobody has the same concerns for happy go lucky me which doesn't help much.
I feel my role in the family is very similar to the one that Del boy describes in Only Fools and Horses in the episode when grandad dies and he has to defend his upbeat mood at the wake in the flat to Rodney. It's not that easy.
I hope someone can support you in this "role" and take on some of the responsibility you feel you are having to deal with. As always, talk to someone, share your feelings, talking can really help. As always there are many of us using this forum who can help even to chat to. Take care
You’re right it’s not that easy. People deal with things in different ways and if your coping mechanism is to be bright and bubbly you’re less likely receive support from the people around you. It’s something I’ve had to deal with for a long time.Quote:
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Alright folks,
It’s been a bit of a crazy year so far and we’re not even out of March.
There’s a lot of uncertainty over things like the Coronavirus. We don’t know what’s going to happen and this will have an effect on the mental health of many. Especially if we start to isolate.
Much like the thread that Pretty Boy started about Community updates, maybe it would be good to have a group for people suffering from mental health issues who could be isolated and cut off from others even more. Likewise, if anyone wants to chat then just drop me a PM.
Thanks
Advice and guidance from Mind on the coronavirus and mental health.
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-...knhFySOPzSNaFs
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Originally Posted by hibsbollah
We have had someone not turn up this week because she is so worried about getting the virus she has made herself unwell. It is a crying shame for her, as she needs to be in control of everything, and when the wind is in her sails, she is one of the most effective people that we have. She is completely sincere when she says that she would swap this for something more serious that people could see.
If this whole CV thing is starting to send you into a downward spiral, consider the following;
Bit of positive news :
- China has closed down its last coronavirus hospital. Not enough new cases to support them.
- Doctors in India have been successful in treating Coronavirus. Combination of drugs used: Lopinavir, Retonovir, Oseltamivir along with Chlorphenamine. They are going to suggest same medicine, globally.
- Researchers of the Erasmus Medical Center claim to have found an antibody against coronavirus.
- A 103-year-old Chinese grandmother has made a full recovery from COVID-19 after being treated for 6 days in Wuhan, China.
- Apple reopens all 42 china stores,
- Cleveland Clinic developed a COVID-19 test that gives results in hours, not days.
- Good news from South Korea, where the number of new cases is declining.
- Italy is hit hard, experts say, only because they have the oldest population in Europe.
- Scientists in Israel likely to announce the development of a coronavirus vaccine.
- 3 Maryland coronavirus patients fully recovered; able to return to everyday life.
- A network of Canadian scientists are making excellent progress in Covid-19 research.
- A San Diego biotech company is developing a Covid-19 vaccine in collaboration with Duke University and National University of Singapore.
-Hearts are going bust.
Keep well :aok:
Just been advised to stay away from work for the foreseeable future due to having asthma. Going to work was the last thing I had left of my normal routine so I'm really struggling with the thought of having absolutely nothing to do for potentially several months.
This is hell.
Feel for u, try taking up some online courses or learn a new language to give u something to do while in the house. I’m sure u will get free courses or lessons online. It may be a while but we will get back to normality so try and keep as positive as u can 👍🏼Quote:
Originally Posted by Sir David Gray
Cheers. I'm really not dealing with this very well at all. I know everyone is dealing with the same issues at the moment and some people are in a worse position than I am but the whole isolation stuff is really affecting me in quite a big way and now staying away from work for an indefinite amount of time is tough.Quote:
Originally Posted by Keyser Sauzee
I might look into some online courses.
I've looked into this thread a few times and not commented, but thought it would maybe help others by giving my thoughts.
My teenage daughter has struggled with her mental health throughout her teenage years, she was bullied at school and self harmed, her arms are a mess with cut marks. Things came to a head about 18 months ago, when aged 14 she took an overdose of pills and spent a night at A&E. We got her help through CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Scotland), the last couple of years have been tough and she was on so many drugs we could have started up our own Pharmacy! Now, aged 16, she has left school, got herself a wee part time job and is off her meds. The last few days I've had a wee chat with her and she appears to be coping very well as all the uncertainty which could easily set her back, she did say if this had all happened about a year ago she would have been a mess.
I guess the reason behind this post is to show that things can seem really bad at times but there is always the hope that we can turn things around. Take care folks. :agree:
Thanks for sharing. I'm really glad to hear that your daughter is doing better and well done to her for getting a job. That alone will be so beneficial to her mental health.Quote:
Originally Posted by AFKA5814_Hibs
Thanks.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sir David Gray
The change in her the last couple of months has been amazing. She went from being a cheery wee lass in Primary School, to being very introvert and spending all her time in her room, to back being cheery again. Everybody comments on how much better she appears. It was horrible watching her being so depressed at such a young age.
It must be awful as a parent to watch your child become so unhappy and not have any way of helping them.Quote:
Originally Posted by AFKA5814_Hibs
The teenage years can be such a horrible time in someone's life. I hated high school and got bullied as well. It affected me a lot and to be honest I feel I'm still dealing with the effects of it today and that was from about 16 or 17 years ago.
Although I never reached the depths that your daughter got to, I often felt so alone and didn't feel like I could reach out to anyone.
It's great your daughter has managed to get the help that she needed and sounds like she's in a much stronger place already. Fingers crossed for her that it's onwards and upwards.
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Originally Posted by hibsbollah
Great post hibsbollah. First positive post I’ve seen in a while. As someone who has struggled with mental health issues in the past the last couple of weeks have been tough. When the News and media are constantly throwing words like death, virus, pandemic, enemy, war etc. On a 24 hour loop it can sometimes be a little overwhelming. Best thing I’ve done is just take a wee break from all news and social media and I’ve been encouraging others to do so, even just for a day or two.
Take care everyone. Our mental well-being is so so important alongside our physical health and don’t be afraid to speak up.
Note that one or two posters have mentioned the possibility of taking a course during the present circumstances. During my own time working in mental health it's always been noticeable the amount of people who chose to study counselling etc.in oder to understand their own mh issues. Just spotted this course in a positive psychology group Sunday evening which looks interesting. Don't be deterred by the $49 dollar tag, that's only if you require the certificate at the end of it. Otherwise it's totally free.
The Science of Well-being - Yale University
https://www.businessinsider.com/cour...-I10&r=US&IR=T
100% agree with that. I came off Facebook the other day and I am also trying to watch regular TV programmes which have nothing to do with the virus. I'm keeping in touch with the news but I am trying to keep it to a minimum as I'm finding it all a bit too much to cope with just now.Quote:
Originally Posted by HibsNI
Not having any timescale for how long this is all going to last is the hardest part. If it was definitely 12 weeks then I could try to mentally prepare for that but it's really just a guess as no-one knows and it could be much longer than that.
Also some free courses here
https://www.open.edu/openlearn/?gclid=CjwKCAjwvOHzBRBoEiwA48i6Alay0TF3LQJsd0aeFPK qect0F15yZZ1s33f04k0V6U43FoCWVEk-wxoC5HgQAvD_BwE
Hope the link works
It's a tough time for many, and I thought I would add my tuppence worth.
It's likely that many of us will experience a recurrence of old issues, and that some will be experiencing anxiety for the first time.
Most of my therapy clients over the last couple of years have been people struggling with anxiety and related conditions, and that will probably continue.
In the short-term, though, I am happy to have chats with anyone on here who is struggling; whether that be by PM here, by phone or online. This isn't a marketing exercise (I'm not looking for payment), but my way of doing my bit and passing on whatever tips and techniques that I can.
Stay safe :)
Thanks CWG, that's very kind 👍