I change from day to day, the thing I have enjoyed the most (apart from my walks and sitting in the garden) has been reconnecting with friends who I haven't talked to for years, haven't laughed so much in ages
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Thread: Depression and anxiety
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13-05-2020 05:29 PM #1201
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14-05-2020 08:58 AM #1202
I do hope that we can learn from what we are all we are saying. Don't just go back to the way it was before when this is all over.
Change your way of living , if you can?
Slow down , take time for yourself , keep doing the walks , the 5000 or 10000 steps a day .
Even at work can you cut back ,don't do overtime if you don't have to keep that time for you!
We all are spending so much less , why is that?
Pouring our money down the drain at pubs, gambling, driving, eating out well i bet most of savings is from some of that as we cannot do any of it.
It is an eye opener to me how little you actually need to live on if you cut out these things.
Even just cutting back a bit helps.
It really is uplifting reading all the comments but let's learn and lets try and keep this way.
Its really good right?
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14-05-2020 09:44 AM #1203This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
I still want to go and do most of this stuff but I guess it also shows how little you do actually need if you didn’t and opted for a simple life.
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14-05-2020 09:51 AM #1204This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
Moan the mentals....
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14-05-2020 09:54 AM #1205This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
"We are the Mental Hibees!"
The rest of the world will be playing catch up.
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14-05-2020 10:03 AM #1206
I’ve gone from being OK at the start to struggling a bit now. It is mainly work that is the issue. They are heaping the pressure on to be even more productive and work long hours. I’m on Microsoft Teams calls often back-to-back from 8.30 through to 5 with a quick break for lunch then expected to do work off the back of that. I feel absolutely shattered and I’m struggling to sleep. My lower back often feels completely numb come 5/5.30. I miss the social interaction at work where you can have a short bitch with a colleague at the tea point to let off steam. I’m working on a big project at the moment and the plan is obviously push this through to avoid financial penalties and to hell with the complications that home working brings to that.
When I look at neighbours out in their gardens reading presumably because they are furloughed I feel jealous of them. Then I feel really guilty because of that as there’s folk really struggling financially at the moment.
I was meant to be putting my house on the market and getting my divorce finalised but that is all on hold and the uncertainty around that isn’t helping either.
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14-05-2020 02:45 PM #1207
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14-05-2020 02:47 PM #1208
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Thanks.
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14-05-2020 03:27 PM #1209This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
It sounds like you've got an awful lot on your plate right now.
When the "big project" is complete, I'd be looking to take some time off if I were you.
Try not to pay too much attention to other people - some will be better off than you right now, some will be worse off. You've just got to keep fighting your own battles, one at a time.
And when you get that time off - don't feel in the least bit guilty about it, you've earned it.
All the best.
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This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show QuoteLess talk, more gifs. 21.05.16
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15-05-2020 11:41 AM #1211
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When you say "constantly" is this 100% of your day with no exception? Is there ever a moment when things feel just fine? Even just a short one.
Sorry you may not be up for answering these..but something to check in on.feel free to PMLast edited by Dalianwanda; 15-05-2020 at 05:30 PM.
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15-05-2020 12:18 PM #1212This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
Fight or flight as my doc describes it well i have always choose flight.
I got prescribed citalopram and have been taking them for two years now. The difference is incredible i still have issues but most of the time i can deal with it.
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15-05-2020 02:04 PM #1213This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
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20-05-2020 10:44 AM #1214This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
It is frustrating when the senior staff openly say “nobody should be feeling like they are working at 100% right now” then privately heap on the pressure and make unrealistic demands.
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23-05-2020 10:39 PM #1215
This fantastic thread has seemed relatively quiet considering the great pressures on people's mental health the past couple of months. i do hope that people in general are managing and coping. There's a lot of advice out there but sometimes there's nothing better than spraffing with your mates about how you're doing.
I've led a pretty solitary life the past (almost) ten weeks, save for working from home providing telephone counselling. I've come to understand that I can feel strong and resilient very much most of the time but that there's a need to be in acceptance that there will be a bad day or time here and there.
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24-05-2020 06:41 AM #1216
Hi folks,
Well done to everyone whose contributed to this thread. It takes amazing bravery to talk a out your feelings.
As I’ve mentioned before I’m a volunteer at The Changing Room which helps men in their middle years tackle depression through football. We have a twelve week programme based at Easter Road which has great backing from Hibs.
In the current climate it’s impossible to have a 12 week programme at Easter Road but it doesn’t mean that we can’t support people on other ways. As a result there’s going to be a five week virtual programme starting soon.
It’s going to be a challenge as it takes away from the things that made the Changing Room a success is that it was held in Easter Road and gave participants a change to spend a bit of time in a place they know and love while feeling supported. However, it’s something that everyone involved is keen to face.
If you’re looking for more information then drop the team an email at thechangingroom@samh.org.uk
while there’s more information here http://hibs.thechangingroom.org.uk/
Thanks
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28-05-2020 07:32 PM #1217
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28-05-2020 08:07 PM #1218
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Respect for acknowledging it...Who knows how you will cope but you’ve coped up till this point..Through the biggest change to our lives any of us have. There’s gonna be changes again for sure....talking about it acknowledging it knowing that a bit of anxious thinking is ..the changing rooms initiative sounds like a great please to allow that to happen..always about if you want a blether
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28-05-2020 10:28 PM #1219
Beacause it's largely uncharted ground i reckon there's bound to be anxieties about returning to whatever 'normal' is. I wouldn't say I feel anxious personally but there is this feeling of 'coming out of the cave' a bit. To understand that this will be the case will be helpful I think.
I read an account of a guy who lives in Glasgow who took a year-long retreat high up on a mountain in China. There were what sounded like a handful of people at the retreat but if I recall he was the only English-speaking person - another isolating factor. In addition, they were cut off for long periods in the winter.
What he stated was that it took him around a week to adapt to his new situation on the mountain. However, when he came back to Glasgow it took him four times as long - a month to adapt back again. He found everything too fast and too loud, the pace of things was problematic to him. i think small steps back 'into life' again might well be the way.Last edited by stu in nottingham; 28-05-2020 at 10:50 PM.
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29-05-2020 05:21 AM #1220
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Thanks both. It will be small steps back out there for me. Even getting in the car driving after 5 weeks was weird. Taking one step at a time will be important...
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29-05-2020 07:07 AM #1221
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29-05-2020 07:11 AM #1222This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
I got involved with a group called Kick Mental Health at the tail end of last year, in Lanark. It involves a group of around 14 (sometimes more) guys getting together every Wednesday for a game of 7 aside, with a combined 'Changing Room Chat' before, during and after for anyone who wants it.
I'm dreadfully bad compared to some of the guys that play weekly, but it's a great laugh and knowing that you're playing with likeminded guys who appreciate the break for a game is liberating.
There have been twice-weekly Zoom catch-up sessions throughout lockdown, but I'm normally 'zoomed out' by the time they happen so haven't joined one yet, but they've been hugely successful by all accounts.
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29-05-2020 08:49 AM #1223
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30-05-2020 07:07 AM #1224
My old man had his first days fishing of the new season yesterday, he was like a wee bairn on Xmas Eve on Thursday night, this will have a hugely positive impact on his mental health after my mum's recent passing.
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30-05-2020 08:32 AM #1225This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
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30-05-2020 08:58 AM #1226This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
I heard yesterday from a pal in the brewing industry (one of the major world brewers) that pubs are hopeful of a UK wide reopening on 4 July (can only assume they expect the 2 metre thing to be reduced, otherwise that will be difficult), so you might be able to get your auld man out for a pint in the not too distant future!
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30-05-2020 09:36 AM #1227This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
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30-05-2020 09:45 AM #1228This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
Apologies for seemingly combining this thread with the wildlife/ drinking threads!!
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30-05-2020 07:23 PM #1229
I ended up a drive last night around midnight after going absolutely tonto at my 3 year old. I haven't slept in about 3 days as a number of things have been weighing down on me. Just as I got into a deep sleep, she woke up and started rattling her head off the wall, which sounded like an earthquake. Bleary and disoriented, I ran into her room and yelled at her to stop it. As soon as I lay her down again, she started laughing, so I screamed "NO!" at her - cue expected and understandable fear and upset from the poor wee mite, and a totally ashamed and somewhat afraid Sylar.
I phoned Samaritans when I was out in the car, and they were great. Gave me some great resources to check out once I got back home. I also phoned Breathing Space this afternoon, and the guy I spoke to listened and spoke compassionately and without judgement. I'm going to see my GP on Monday - I'm fed up of these angry outbursts and low moods, and I've put off seeking proper help long enough. I reckon there's an element of my already-diagnosed anxiety at work, but I wouldn't be surprised if Depression and potentially PTSD are part of the conversation on Monday.
I never hear of any of my mate's or family members who are dad's struggling, and so speaking to someone else earlier who was also a dad to a young toddler and is experiencing really challenging days was incredibly reassuring. Made me feel like much less of a failure as a parent and a human being, but I definitely need help before I end up doing some damage to myself or someone else.
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