H Your last sentence shows you care and I am sure the support you gave him for that period was appreciated by him even if he didn't say so. Your wording on your previous post may mean nothing to some but will mean everything to someone looking in and it may have given them the courage to seek some assistance/help they so desperately need.This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
Wasn't sure how to word this so hopefully this makes sense!
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Thread: Depression and anxiety
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23-08-2018 06:47 PM #841
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26-08-2018 09:22 PM #842
The amount of support on this thread makes me proud to be a hibby. I don’t get out to too many games due to mental health issues mainly depression anxiety and ptsd. I’ve done counselling and been on many different meds including alcohol been sober 5 years now. Every day I question myself and others on what there motives are. Every day is a struggle but I’m up and at work every day but still have the feeling of dread and self loathing. This forum in all its forms helps.
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30-08-2018 06:50 AM #843This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
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04-09-2018 10:39 PM #844
Currently struggling. Been doing so well recently, but can’t face to even look at myself right now. Why does it change so quickly. Self loathing is something I’ve never been able get rid off.
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05-09-2018 07:52 AM #845This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
Sometimes I think that we are more in tune with our natural environment than we are allowed to admit. Round about this time of year, with the equinox approaching, our natural selves are preparing for winter, but society demands that we still run at 100%.
So, as our energy levels are dropping, our activity isn't. That leads to more anxiety, self-reproach and, as you say, self-loathing.
My approach in September/October is to try and squeeze as much fresh air and, more importantly, light into my batteries to prepare for the darker days ahead. It's not easy when you have a job and personal commitments, I know, but I find it worth the effort.
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05-09-2018 09:32 AM #846
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I haven't read the whole thread so forgive me if I'm missing something. I was on Prozac for 12 years because of depression. My old man had undiagnosed depression and I believe Grandparents who I never knew were the same.
I started to read about Buddhism and how it can greatly improve your quality of life. I found it's been hijacked like many other religions and turned into a monster but you can take some basic teachings and apply them to everyday life.
Very simply....
1)Do what makes you happy but don't hurt others. If it's not quite what others want then tough. You are the important one, life is very short.
2)Forget all negative **** from the past...it's gone.
3)Live in the present..right NOW, not 5 minutes ago or ten years ago..it's gone. The ONLY reality in life is NOW.
4)Don't stress about the future..it'll seldom turn out how you want and that will only create disappointment.
5)Forgive people, you're only hurting yourself with negative or angry emotions.
5 simple rules which at first glance may look like superficial crap but think about, and apply, each one and your life will change.
If anybody thinks these simple rules may help can I stress number 3 is by far the most effective. Learn what it means to live in the present and apply it.
Once again I apologise if this isn't really relevant to the growing thread but thought it worth putting out there.
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05-09-2018 12:45 PM #847This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
Thanks.
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05-09-2018 01:33 PM #848This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
They're not ideal if you work nights, as they can keep you awake when you don't want to be. But you can play around with your routine.
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05-09-2018 08:29 PM #849This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
I'm really not a fan of winter and the dark nights when it's dark by about 4pm.
I agree it is very important to get out as much as you can during daylight hours during those months. It's not always easy but that's how I've helped my mood during winter.
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06-09-2018 10:02 AM #850
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I usually take vit D through the winter as I work outside so it’s a bit of a shock to lose the sun!
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07-09-2018 01:30 PM #851This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
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09-09-2018 10:34 AM #852This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
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09-09-2018 12:39 PM #853
Another who struggles at this time of year. I just always seem drained.
My issue is I'm doing 55-60 hour weeks at the moment, have a 1 year old daughter and am trying to balance the books with nursery fees and the like. I'm not totally sure if I'm just feeling the stresses everyone feels in life or something more. I'm forcing myself to go out running and trying to make sure I eat well and so on but I'm getting the irritable, contrary, sulky way I get when I know I'm not doing well.PM Awards General Poster of The Year 2015, 2016, 2017. Probably robbed in other years
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09-09-2018 03:21 PM #854This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
You know that this time of year is tough for you. You also know that, generally, things do get better at some point. That self-awareness is a great asset to have.
Sometimes, doing all the right things like diet and exercise just isn't enough.
Accepting that you are who you are, good stuff and *****, can be a good tool for helping you through the tough times. I often use the mantra "this will pass" ..... because it nearly always does.
And the next time I have a good day, I soak it all up and store that memory to remind me, when life gets crap, that it will get better.
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09-09-2018 07:02 PM #855
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Truth is, thoughts are temporary and so are emotions...They keep on moving if we see them for what they are and come back to true self.
Not that i always do.
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09-09-2018 08:02 PM #856This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show QuoteFollow the Hibs podcast, Longbangers, on Twitter (@longbangers)
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09-09-2018 11:09 PM #857
As I have posted previously I have had a horrible year and the sciatica I thought had gone has come back. Have to go back to work but there's no way i can do a full day with this pain. Also wating for another op, third one this year. Love Autumn but just beaten up with stuff at the moment. As I said putting my darling cat to sleep on Thursday has unleashed a torrent of emotion that has been building all year. But, it will pass, a great phrase to keep in mind thanks.
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11-09-2018 06:02 AM #858
See that Cummings thread is stirring up some comments around mental health “mentally unwell” and “not right in the head” type comments. Added to the window lickers and puddle drinkers I know it’s a football forum but I hope there will come a time when we live in more enlightened times.
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11-09-2018 06:24 AM #859This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
It's an easy option to use that language to describe people's actions. Cummings, Trump, the Pilot Wings guy... just a few examples. It's stigmatising and, for people who are struggling, not helpful at all.
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12-09-2018 01:36 PM #860
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I've just put up a very short article for anyone suffering from panic/anxiety attacks https://bit.ly/2CJnMwO
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13-09-2018 08:19 PM #861
Interesting article on the BBC website today.
I have a strong suspicion that mental health problem are far more prevalent in professional football than is commonly imagined. The public sometimes view a stereotype of the rich, spoiled and cossetted footballer but I feel the rank and file professionals that form the majority of players are under many and varied pressures which can affect their well-being. Nor is the culture around the game especially conducive to those professionals discussing their problems and obtaining the appropriate support.
Marvin Sordell calls for full-time counsellors in football clubs
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03-10-2018 07:44 PM #862
Hi all, finally plucked up the courage to post in this thread after months of looking in (I’ve read every single page of it).
ive been down lately, can’t put my finger on why, as many of you will know there often isn’t a reason... just a general malaise and feelings of worthlessness, loneliness etc. It happens periodically. Social anxiety too, and I’ve started attending a monthly support group for this. I also take on board the stuff in recent posts here about the change in seasons having an effect. I actually enjoy autumn with the cooler weather and the colours of the trees etc but the darker evenings are certainly tough.
Anyway, just wanted to say hello, as the thread was starting to slip down the board a wee bit and it’s been a huge help to me, so much good advice and inspiration (as well as some desperately sad stories), from people who know what they’re talking about. Thanks to all of you for it.
Cheers
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03-10-2018 08:34 PM #863This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
How are you finding the support groups for the social anxiety? I found talking a great help with my anxiety to help rationalise all the weird feelings and thoughts. I was always obsessed with knowing my nearest escape route was, kmowing where the toilet was, feeling like I was going to faint, collapse with a cardiac arrest and so on. I found ot quite amazing how common it sppears to be.PM Awards General Poster of The Year 2015, 2016, 2017. Probably robbed in other years
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03-10-2018 10:04 PM #864This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
Thanks mate.
yes I’m finding it worthwhile, though it’s early days, only been the last couple of months (went to one last year but bottled it and didn’t go again for 12 months). talking to others who feel similar, if not the same thoughts is certainly helpful and that pressure and fear of not wanting to embarrass myself or make a fool of myself every time I open my mouth is lessened by the fact the others feel the same way. Still waiting to see how it helps me in my everyday life.
Your last sentence strikes a chord too. The first thing the organizer of the group said to me was that one in eight people suffer social anxiety in some capacity. Hard to believe. I’ve often seen the many extroverts at work and in the pub and wondered what the hell was wrong with me.*
*i know many extroverts suffer mental health problems too. You just never know what’s going on behind the laughter.
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04-10-2018 12:14 AM #865This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
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12-10-2018 06:05 PM #866
Quite an interesting programme on SKY last night about depression, McAteer : Through the Storm, well worth a watch.
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14-10-2018 07:45 AM #867This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
It’s sad to see that so many people on here suffer from mental health issues but it’s also great to see that so many of us are talking about it or doing something about it.
I’ve said it before but the Changing Room programme run with SAMH and Hibs massively impressed me when I took part in it. People can sign up for this. I’m still pals with the folk I met on it and I’d like to think that we’re there for each other if we need help.
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15-10-2018 08:30 PM #868
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The Open University has a free course available right now on understanding depression and anxiety.
Hopefully it's of use to some on here.
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23-10-2018 04:52 PM #869
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First time speaking about this to any1 but my family but it’s become clear that I’m struggling with Health Anxiety, I’m not sure how severe it is for me but I know I definitely have a problem with it and it’s been like this for the past 6 months I’d say. I’m not anxious about becoming ill with everyday illness I’m more concerned about any type of cancer and I’m scared for my future aswell. I’m convincing myself that any little change in is an early sign of it and I’m straight to my GP, I can tell they are becoming a little fed up of me but I can’t help it. I would like to know if any1 can point me in the right direction of a good CBT therapist as I think this might be the way to go. Sorry if this post is bringing issues back up with others I’m just looking to get some help. Thanks in advance
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23-10-2018 05:23 PM #870This quote is hidden because you are ignoring this member. Show Quote
I've sent you a PM :)
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